is anxiety masking your true self?

Are You Tired of Feeling Trapped by Anxiety?

Does this sound familiar?

  • Waking up already feeling anxious, with your mind immediately jumping to a list of worries? 

  • Feeling overwhelmed by even small tasks or responsibilities, finding it hard to cope with daily life demands?

  • Avoiding certain situations or activities because of fear of being judged or accepted?

  • Feeling physically drained or experiencing discomfort without a clear physical cause?

Anxiety can look and feel different for everyone depending on their experiences in life, but one thing anxiety can teach us is that your trust and sense of safety within yourself has to be stronger than your anxiety. 

Imagine waking up every day without that familiar knot in your stomach, or the constant fear and worry. Imagine living a life where you face challenges with confidence and ease, rather than being trapped by anxiety.

If you’re struggling with anxiety, you know how it feels to be stuck in a never-ending cycle of worry and fear. You’re not alone. Many women feel overwhelmed, isolated, and often powerless against their anxiety. 

But it doesn't have to be this way.

Anxiety is more than just a feeling of nervousness. It can make simple tasks feel overwhelming, saps your energy, or fills your mind with relentless, racing thoughts.

Living with anxiety is exhausting, both mentally and physically. It steals our peace, joy, and sense of self. It makes us feel disconnected from life.

Anxiety is feedback that somewhere there’s a lack of trust in our life.

The longer we experience anxiety, the more we are prone to avoiding or ignoring uncomfortable emotions which keeps us disconnected from our true selves.

I’m Chris Wilborn

I believe that you are not your anxiety.

I understand the struggle of living with anxiety. I know how it feels to wake up every day with that familiar knot in your stomach, wondering if things will ever get better. I used to wonder: “Will my anxiety ever go away?”“Will I ever feel like myself again?” 

My mission is to help women break free from anxiety’s grip and rediscover and reclaim peace and trust within our lives. When we fully trust ourselves we’re receptive to new learnings, new possibilities, and new perspectives that help us be more flexible in responses to stress. 

Anxiety is simply a signal that something in your life needs to change. And the good news? We have the power to rewire our brains and reclaim our sense of safety around our triggers. We just have to help your brain feel more safe by giving it the information it needs to thrive.

The 6 Core Triggers of Anxiety 

  • 1. Sense of Physiological Safety

    Root Cause: Chronic stress, unresolved trauma, or ongoing health issues can disrupt the body’s sense of balance and safety.

    Why It Feels Unsafe: The brain prioritizes physical safety and survival. When it perceives internal threats, such as prolonged stress or unresolved trauma, it triggers anxiety to signal that something needs attention.

    What You’re Seeking: A stable and healthy internal state where your body functions optimally, allowing you to focus on life without being overwhelmed by physical distress.

    Disconnect: When physiological needs are unmet or ignored, your body remains in a state of alert, making it difficult to relax and feel safe.

  • 2. Sense of Safety within the Self

    Root Cause: Lack of self-trust and confidence often stems from breaking promises to oneself, self-doubt, and not living in alignment with one's true self and desires.

    Why It Feels Unsafe: These experiences erode your sense of self-worth, causing you to question your abilities and authenticity.

    What You’re Seeking: A secure and resilient sense of self, where you trust your own worth and abilities and stay true to your values.

    Disconnect: Inconsistencies between your actions and your true self lead to a lack of self-trust and authenticity.

  • 3. Sense of Safety in Social Connections

    Root Cause: Experiences of rejection, betrayal, judgment, or lack of supportive relationships. Past social traumas or negative interactions.

    Why It Feels Unsafe: The brain perceives social threats as severe because human connection is vital for survival and well-being.

    What You’re Seeking: Emotional safety. Genuine acceptance and meaningful connections where you feel valued and understood.

    Disconnect: Fear of social rejection leads to isolation, even though connection is what you deeply crave.

  • 4. Sense of Safety in Space & Time

    Root Cause: Your environment contains hidden cues or triggers that your brain interprets as threats, setting off feelings of anxiety and unease. Your environment significantly influences your behavior and feelings of safety.

    Why It Feels Unsafe: The brain continuously scans the environment for potential threats 24/7. Certain cues or triggers in your surroundings, whether consciously perceived or not, can signal danger and trigger anxiety.

    What You’re Seeking: An environment that promotes a sense of safety, stability, and predictability, where you can relax and focus without feeling overwhelmed by perceived threats.

    Disconnect: Misalignment between your environment and your need for safety and predictability can keep you in a state of heightened anxiety. Recognizing and addressing these triggers can help you create a safer and more supportive environment for yourself.n goes here

  • 5. Sense of Safety in Skills and Resources

    Root Cause: Past failures, lack of resources, or inadequate support can erode confidence in your abilities and preparedness. Additionally, not knowing what skills or resources are needed to achieve your goals can create anxiety.

    Why It Feels Unsafe: Doubts about your skills and resources make every task feel like a potential failure.

    What You’re Seeking: Confidence in your capabilities and assurance that you have what you need to succeed.

    Disconnect: You may be unaware of the specific skills and resources needed to tackle challenges, leading to feelings of inadequacy and avoidance.

  • 6. Sense of Safety in Certain Situations

    Root Cause: Negative experiences or traumatic events in specific contexts can leave lasting imprints of fear and avoidance.

    Why It Feels Unsafe: These situations remind your brain of past pain, triggering an automatic anxiety response.

    What You’re Seeking: Comfort and capability in facing similar situations without being overwhelmed by anxiety.

    Disconnect: Past traumas or events overshadow your present experiences, making it difficult to respond differently.

How To Break Free from Anxiety

Phase 1: Unpacking the Anxiety Cycle

By demystifying the biological and psychological processes behind anxiety, this phase lays the groundwork for meaningful change, empowering you to see anxiety as a natural, though often misfiring, response.

Phase 2: Unravel Your Unique Anxiety Signature

Identify and understand your specific anxiety triggers and patterns. By pinpointing your unique anxiety signature, you can develop personalized strategies that address the specific roots of your anxiety, leading to more effective and targeted approaches.

Phase 3: Break Free from the Anxiety Cycle

By aligning with your true self and values, you foster resilience and long-term relief, breaking free from the anxiety cycle and achieving lasting well-being.